Where do you start when trying to explain how bad a year has been? 2008 was a mixed year, though leaning more towards bad than good. I overcame my depression of sorts, and am growing stronger mentally by the day, and things were looking good, but when Michael got the infection to his eye, it pretty much tipped the scale over to bad. I’d have given up any chance of happiness if I only could see my little boy well and in good health. He’s finally starting to act the way he did before all happened, so he’s his usual self. Only acting more like a bandit than anything else, which to be honest is just a joy. :)
I was sick for a week myself, flu and everything. God how I hate having the flu, or a cold. Now Marte was sick last night, and Michael threw up. He was really going for a check today, but it had to be postponed. I am working fulltime these days, so I wasn’t able to take him myself. I just turned 25, and don’t have my driverslicense yet. :( I’m going to make a real effort of getting it during this year.
I am eager to see what this new year holds for our little family. Hopefully we’ll be adding another count to the number of members. So, the goals I will be trying hard to achieve:
- Control my temper
- Pay more attention to Marte
- Treat Marte better
- Have more patience with Michael
- Pay more attention to Michael
- Play less WoW
- Get more things done in the house
- Get my driverslicense
I will try my best to get things done. Here’s a for a better year.
I admire your honesty and really appreciated the fantastic guide for the AAO.
Controlling your temper is different from not doing an angry temper in the first place. I don’t know about your anger, but my anger is often about controlling stuff, thinking things are not fair, wanting stuff to be one way while they are another way. It’s the stuff of insecurity and defence.
So paying attention to how the heck your anger works can be useful. What are your buttons and how do they work. Is there perhaps some pattern to it? What do you need to know in order to get angry? You might just uncover some misunderstandings and insecurities in your system there. This sort of thing can really take you places.
Study anger like it’s from mars. Pay attention to anger in any different way than you’re doing now. Get curious.
This controlling anger stuff isn’t such a good idea. You wouldn’t do this to an angry and frightened child would you? Understand and love.
I hope this is useful in your life. It’s been an excellent investment in my life. Feel free to email me any time.
Thanks for a superb guide on the AAO!
Comment by Mangus — January 16, 2009 @ 01:02
I appreciate the feedback, thank you. :) Often there are things that you just can’t see for yourself, like in this case, so I am grateful for all opinions and thoughts. I’ve never really just sat down and thought of things, how they work, why they are how they are. But I will surely be taking some time to think things through properly. Thank you again. :)
Comment by jorge — January 16, 2009 @ 07:15
Jorge, I used to drop by and see if you had posted something new on AAO until I found things were not going well. I’m now really happy to read that your precious young one is getting well.
For now, best wishes. And play less WoW !
Ulvers++ :)
Ciao
Alessandro
Comment by Alessandro — January 16, 2009 @ 16:14
Hi Jorge,
Except for the drivers license we’re not that different. One little tip: now and then just accept things as they are. It will give some piece of mind helping to see things in perspective.
A happy New Year to you and your beloved ones!
Cheers, Jaap
PS I Tried linux4one, but came back to FC10 with GNOME while using your tips again!
Comment by Jaap — January 19, 2009 @ 21:17
Hola Jorge,
Has intentado el yoga? Eso de controlar tu atitud, de cooperar más y estar más sereno es un proceso interior tuyo pero a mi la prática del yoga me ha ayudado. Estoy en mi tercer año y creo que ya puedo ver mejorias.
abrazo
j
Comment by jvarela — February 1, 2009 @ 18:30
Hola,
Lamentablemente no lo he intentado. Pero sabes, lo he pensado. Te sirve? Por mucho tiempo he pensado de intentar el yoga, pero bueno, no ha pasado nada. Pero gracias por tu comentario, lo voy a tener presente. :)
Comment by jorge — February 2, 2009 @ 19:14
Si, yo tambien estuve años pensando que me gustaria intentar el yoga. pero nunca ha sido un proyecto, sino una idea que fluctuava en mi cabeza, pensava a veces que eso podría ser algo que me pudiera ayudar, etc. Un dia he visto un anuncio de la escuela de yoga que me pareció séria (hay mucho marketing y tal en algunas de estas cosas), ye me hé dicho: pués me voy a intentarlo hoy mismo. Dos años y medio después estoy seguro que el yoga me ayuda a tornarme mejor como persona, eso es decir a convivir con el mejor de mi mismo. (behavior breeds behaviour) Y a estar bien fisicamente también, a terner cuidado con la alimentación, y eso ayuda a sentirte bien. Mens sana in corpore sano. Y cada vez me gusta más.
Abrazo,
j
Comment by JVarela — February 19, 2009 @ 16:32